A Little Rejection Tale

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A professional writer is an amateur who didn’t give up. If you keep going you improve and you’ll break through eventually, but you must keep going.

Some years ago I had a room-mate, lets call him Robert, who was an exceedingly talented writer and a super bright individual. Robert had come from a north of England working class family and had won a scholarship to a top college at Oxford to study law, and then proceeded to get a 1st. In a class ridden society such as England is, this is quite a feat. He then went on to barrister pupilage in London. So far, so successful. He struggled in London however, his working class roots a subtle bar from invitation to the glossiest circles, and he let it get to him. Robert decided to jack the law trade in and devote his time to his hobby, writing prose.

Robert was blessed with a wondrous poetic use of language and could craft very beautiful, visual prose. He also had an instinct for story. Within a year, a short story by Robert, had won a prestigious national prize. The way seemed set for a glittering career as a writer. Robert sent out his first novel manuscript to an agent of his choosing. It was rejected. Robert was speechless and sunk into a depression for a few months. Eventually he rallied round, spent another six months moving commas around pages and plucked up the courage to send it out again. And again it was rejected. This process was repeated a third time, after which Robert hit bottom and decided to never write again – and I learned a valuable lesson by proxy.

Robert’s book was slow-paced and poetic and not to everyone’s taste, but there’s no doubt it was good. It may have even eventually have been published had he persevered and found the right agent/publisher. However, Robert’s issue was that he could not take rejection. Following a lifetime of over-achievement, he had unreal expectations and a sense of privilege and entitlement that often accompanies high success at a young age – yes, even for those from working class backgrounds. If Robert had had the skills to roll with the blows, he would have no doubt become a barrister and a published and acclaimed author – but he did not know how to handle rejection, so he gave up. Dealing with the turn-downs is the most important skill a writer needs.

Robert had three rejections and then stopped writing. It’s July, I’ve had 33 rejection letters since January this year alone, and I’ll have the same number again by December (I’ve had 10 acceptances thus far this year, however, just to give you an idea of the percentages). If you are not willing to take the hits, you need to get out of the writing game. The upside is that if you keep going, keep sending those ships out, keep improving and keep rolling with the punches, you absolutely will break through… eventually.

 

 

 

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About suehealy

Irish writer/playwright Sue Healy’s work has been supported and developed by Arts Council England, Dublin’s Abbey Theatre, the Peggy Ramsay Foundation, the Heinrich Boll Association and Waterford Corporation/Tyrone Guthrie Centre. Her short play ‘The Dog in the Tree House‘ won the 2017 Claremorris Fringe Award. In 2016, her debut stage production, ‘Brazen Strap’ showed at the King’s Head Theatre. She was a finalist for the 2016 Eamon Keane Playwriting Prize, the 2016 Nick Darke Award and the 2016 Old Vic 12. In 2017, her work shows at the Hackney Attic (January) and the Etcetra Theatre (April). Sue’s nine radio dramas have broadcast on BBC Radio 4,WLRfm, KCLR96fm. She has also won the Sussex Playwrights’ Award, presented in the Festival of Contemporary European Drama and has had staged readings of her work in London, Norwich, Brighton and Cornwall. A UEA Creative Writing MA alumna, Sue’s prose won seven national prizes: the Molly Keane Memorial Award, BBC Opening Lines, Escalator Prize and HiSSAC Award. She spent eleven years in Budapest, editing Hungary A.M. Presently, she is London-based, researching a PhD on the Royal Court Theatre. Sue is Deputy Literary Manager at the Finborough Theatre. View all posts by suehealy

29 responses to “A Little Rejection Tale

  • oliviaboler

    Thanks for this. My writing has been rejected so often, I think of it as a given. Not to be negative, just realistic. Still, you can’t win if you don’t play, right?

  • lbdarling

    Don’t get too used to it, Sue! It can spill over to your RW life! But, I totally agree, part of putting yourself and your work out there is learning to handle rejection, letting it roll off your back, and going on to bigger and better.

  • europasicewolf

    Encouraging words…rejection can be so soul destroying when you don’t knwo how to handle it, and I so know where you’re coming from when you say about burning all your writing that time…I guess dealing with rejection comes with maturity and therefore takes some of us longer than others to achieve! Enjoy the Edinburgh Fringe and I hope you find a good theatre! 🙂

  • lambskinny

    Thanks Sue! Wonderful advice!

    Carley

  • writerlyderv

    Sensible advice and fair dues to you for being honest about the less glamorous aspects of writing. Interesting stats about your strike rate too – gives good perspective.

  • abevanswylie

    The trolley lady is a stroke of genius!
    You’re an accomplished writer, but winning everything would be very unhealthy for your creativity.
    I never won anything and am so creative I could cry 🙂

  • jpbohannon

    Sometimes I measure my success in the quality of the rejection! Congrats on being short listed. As another Irish writer once said “fail again, fail better.”

  • Mary Healy

    You rock, Sue! Soon all your boats will come back to port when you least expect. I’d say you’re doing just fine, (Easy for me to say) Every career choice has its processes, it seems. Such is life.

  • emmyleigh

    You’re so right in your advice! I’m becoming sadly aware that sitting fearing rejection isn’t getting my writing any better, that I’m not going to wake up one day and discover that it’s fallen into place and I can write. And it is that sheer determination that sorts out those who can really push through rejection and get there. Congratulations on all those that did get through and good luck fixing those that haven’t yet 🙂

  • mrylyn66

    Rejection is tough, it kept me from writing for several years. Thanks for your honesty Sue!

  • Vikki Thompson

    Sorry to hear you didn’t get short listed honey 😦

    I’ve decided I’m going to paper my downstairs loo with rejection letters once I get enough 😉

    Xx

  • sandradan1

    Hi Sue, Thanks for finding and following my blog. Sorry about this rejection, I know how it feels. But you’ve got to keep sending out your babies!

  • uldissprogis

    Your award collection is outstanding but unfortunately the internet is killing the writing profession because no one likes to read about topics which have little relevance to their lives. Reading for pleasure, especially if it is rather verbose and doesn’t get to the point quickly, is going out of style rather rapidly. You have to be a celebrity with a book to get it published and make any money these days or have a very large money promotion war chest. I wish you luck making money at writing because frankly it is a dying profession, especially book writing.

  • toad (chris jensen)

    Thanks for the follow sue, I am not so experience writer whom just start poetry introduced by hastywords basically grade six education and a lot street life, which am currently writing to you now. There seem much to learn and little time.

    cheers toad (chris jensen)

  • SirenaTales

    Thanks for the wise and witty post. I admire your honesty, sense of humor and resilience. Especially love the ship’s log–brilliant! Looking forward to reading more. Cheers! P.s. Congratulations on all of the ships that have successfully returned to port-quite impressive considering the stormy seas and abundant shoals that are the artist’s lot.

  • Carol Donaldson

    Hi Sue,

    So glad you’re following my blog. I really relate to this piece. The best antidote to rejection is to get your stuff back out there as soon as possible. While you keep trying there is hope, when you stop trying there is no hope. I seem to follow the same path with relationships!!!.. not sure this advice works so well there.

    I’m really interested in the grant you received from the Arts Council for your novel. Is it a particular fund or award? If you have the time I’d be really keen to find out more. I have an idea I want to research but could do with a bit of funding to help me do so.

    • suehealy

      hi Carol, It’s not a particular fund – any artist can apply to the arts council for funding for a particular project. You need to have a strong track record in your art and to propose a very good project, however. Their website will explain the procedure.
      Good luck!

  • broadsideblog

    Love this post — and your forthrightness about the whole process. Ships. So great…hope you never have a Vasa (check it out.)

    Last year I was one of 278 applicants for a Big Fellowship here in the States, 14 of whom got to the interview. Ugh. I had 15 minutes (!) to impress five judges. I did not win, and I was not well prepared as I’d really not expected to become a finalist. This year I am back at it again (this might be the 3rd or 4th time trying for that one). I am amazed by people who slink away after their work is rejected — because they often conflate their work with their personal worth. BIG difference. Until you can separate the two, (and the sting of not being chosen), it’s very tough.

    I know my ongoing success, like yours, is as much a result of bloodyminded not giving up as talent. My first two books were each rejected by 25 (!) publishers before the 26th said yes. Stressful as hell, but what if I or my agent had given up?

  • echoesofthepen

    Just taking a quick break from updating one of my blog drafts so rather than leave the desk to indulge in some domestic chore as I usually would, I thought it more productive to at least stay at he keyboard:

    I must say the picture compliments your post here beautifully, quite the stroke of genius if you forgive the cliché. There’s little else I can say that hasn’t already been covered by previous replies here other than to say well done, and that I’ve no doubt your perseverance will bring great success in the near future.

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  • CL

    Thank you for writing this post! I think rejection and bouncing back from it are topics that should be addressed more often (especially the latter).

  • nancyrae4

    I appreciate the follow.

    Wonderful post, Sue. As a new author, I’ve had plenty of time to fret about rejection. But, strangely enough, It bothered me a lot less than I feared. Probably I haven’t received enough thanks-but-no- thanks agent emails yet:) I agree that persistence is the key. I loved my first novel, but it was just that. My second novel will be the one I feel good about sending out into the world.

  • Linda Covella

    It can get discouraging, but you can’t give up! 🙂 You also have to celebrate the wins, such as your screenplay being shortlisted and realize that is a big accomplishment in itself. Another thing that keeps me going is the occasional positive feedback from editors or agents. I think it means a lot if they take the time to give a personal response.

  • hilarycustancegreen

    Congrats on the shortlisting. I get chuffed if a get a personalised rejection and do the Cancan on the rare occasions that anyone asks to see the whole manuscript. I read recently that tests show that successful people have more failures than unsuccessful ones – well illustrated by your post. Thanks for following.

  • trezvennost

    thanks, this means a lot. had similar approach with sending out and receiving rejections. stopped for ten years to “just write” and breaking out back to sending is quite a heavy weight to lift due to waiting and procrastination. again, thank you for posting this. getting back to action!

  • memyselfandjoy

    I was feeling quite disheartened about (yet another) rejection email and flicked to my next email, which was this blog update. Perfect timing – thank you Sue!

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